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3 Tips to boost your Midlife Motivation!

motivation Jan 14, 2021

How did you start your day........?  

  • Check your cell phone while brushing your teeth?
  • Made coffee, tea or smoothie while packing kids lunch, unload the dishwasher and cleaned the cats litter box?
  • 7 minute exercise on You Tube while listening to an audiobook on motivation?
  • Getting dressed while loading the washer and feeding the dogs?
  • Read a book or joined a bible study?
  • Practiced self-care or volunteered?

Sound like an overload of questions, right!  As Jim Rohn mentioned: 

“Motivation is what get you started; Habit is what keeps you going.”

What motivated you to do all these things?

  • family
  • habit
  • guilt
  • routine
  • passion or purpose

How do you keep yourself motivated? Or even better, where do you start to connect with your inner motivation, or find the energy to getting back to your purpose and passion that seem like a lot of work?

Many of us have fallen into daily repetitive habits. According to scientists, “habits emerge because the brain is...

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3 Reasons for Midlife Self-Care

self-care Oct 22, 2020

Selfcare is the -buzz- word at the moment! We all know we have to take some time to give back to ourselves, but it seems like there is just never enough time, adding some extra 2020-Covid spice to the mix, then the self-care concept flies out the back door.

Nevertheless, it’s sometimes easier said than done!

I recall a few months back, I was desperate for a spa day, but with all the lockdown procedures, virtual school demands, the emotional rollercoaster and taking care of family and friends, I just did not have the energy to take any time for myself.

Well, I am blessed to have a fun, loving husband. He noticed that my personal wellbeing was hanging on a shoestring (although I believe he needed it himself as well) He surprised me the one evening with a store-bought facial mask and together we had a self-care date-night (although it only lasted for about 45 minutes before the demands of the household took over, but we did it.)

We both realised that it’s not about the...

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3 Reasons why journaling doesn't always work and how to maximise your experience

journaling Sep 10, 2020

At the end of 2019, I received a bullet journal as part of my Christmas gift. 2020 was going to be a fantastic year. I am a planner and love my checklists, colour pencils, sticky notes, creative stickers and multiple mini-notepads.  As an ex-pat family of 5, living abroad for the past 13 years is no longer unfamiliar territory. I have to make sure that I am on track to balance all the expectations of home life, school, work, university, yacht industry, coaching and the culturally diverse society in Spain, we live in. 

So, I usually have everything worked out months in advance, written down, little boxes are made up with things that I might need for upcoming events.

2020 was no different. This would also be the year that I would publish my long awaiting book "Who am I".   

I was set, what could go wrong?

Super excited, I kicked off in January 2020 with my bullet journal. Before long I was already bulleting away at things to do for March. You might...

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3 Reasons why empty nest is gut wrenching and how to prepare for it

empty nest Sep 03, 2020

My personal empty nest countdown has begun. 

On the 3rd of September 2020, it was my youngest son, Marcel’s first–last day of school. He started Grade 12, and for the upcoming months, it will be the first-last day of everything with regards to his school experience.                                                           

Thinking back to his first day, I realised that he started school in a foreign country, compared to his two older brothers that started in their home country, South Africa. 


We’ve been an ex-pat family for the past 13 years. Born in beautiful South Africa, my childhood dreams were like so many others. Buy a house, get married, have kids and raise them in the same community that I grew up in. Enjoy Christmas, Birthdays and BBQ dinners with the cousins, uncles, aunts,...

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5 Tips on aging gracefully

aging gracefully Aug 20, 2020

Today was one of those mornings, a reality check. Haven't put on make-up for quite some time and enjoyed my casual tracksuit pants over the past months (let's blame COVID ). 

I was getting ready to meet a friend for lunch and wanted to look my best. I laid out my clothes with matching shoes, handbag and scarf. Then off to the shower, blow-dry my hair, and now I'm ready. Start with the foundation, but not sure what's missing and add a bit more. Then the eye-shadow, but for some reason, the mirror looks a bit foggy. I wipe the mirror and tried again. But I did not recognize this person staring back at me.  

Between my eyesight that's no longer what it was, the wrinkles and the extra padding around my waist that casually teases the zipper of my pants, it dawned on me. 

It's not the mirror, and I'm not in my 20's anymore. This is midlife (and of course my eyesight.). I had a choice! I could complain about everything around my body that's not the same as it was 30...

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